Somatic Intimacy, Relationship and Sex Coach
Pelvic Floor and Bodywork for Men, Melbourne
This is where you get genuinely good at sex and connection:
leaving performance anxiety behind, for stronger, more reliable erections
real foreplay and slow exploration instead of a race to the finish, lasting longer and bringing the fun back
knowing how to turn your partner on and read their body
being present, confident, and hard to forget
Whether you want to reignite a long relationship, walk into dating with real confidence, or simply have the best sex of your life, this is a skill you can build, and I can teach you.
I'm a pelvic floor specialist and somatic intimacy, relationship and sex coach in Melbourne, and I work differently: with your body, not just talk. Most of us learned sex from porn, which taught performance and pressure. Real skill is the opposite, slowing down and feeling more, and it is something you practise here, not just hear about. Whether it is coaching, tantric bodywork or pelvic floor bodywork, I stay clothed in all of them, and it all builds the same thing: presence, confidence, and erections you can rely on.
Whatever brought you here, the first step is a free 20–30 minute conversation. It's as much for you as it is for me. You can ask anything you're curious about: how I work, what a session looks like, whether this feels right for you. I get a sense of what's brought you here, and whether I'm the right person to support you. If it feels like a good match, we book something in.
What brings you here?
Pelvic Floor Bodywork
This is hands-on work with results you can feel. Stronger, more reliable erections. More control, and more sensation, even where it had gone numb. It's here for when your body isn't doing what you want it to and the pills haven't been the answer, whether that's erectile difficulty, premature ejaculation, pain or numbness. A prescription can help the mechanics, but it doesn't reach the tense pelvic floor and wound-up nervous system underneath. That's the part we work with directly, releasing tense muscles, relieving nerve pain, and reactivating sensation, and it can change.
“Since experiencing nerve damage when my prostate was removed (due to cancer diagnosis), I am no longer able to achieve an erection... Most particularly, if you are a male challenged by erectile dysfunction, Ami is the practitioner for you. No judgement and no performance issues, simply a lovely indulgence in self pleasure.”
I work with prostate issues, including recovery after prostate surgery (prostatectomy), erectile difficulty, premature ejaculation, and chronic pelvic pain. I also work with nerve pain, genital numbness, painful ejaculation, tight foreskin (phimosis), and scar tissue from circumcision or surgery, along with the back, perineal or testicular pain a tense pelvic floor can cause. So much of this comes back to a pelvic floor that is either too tight or too weak, and the work is to help it settle and rebalance, not just hand you Kegels. With premature ejaculation, that means expanding what your body can hold, not forcing control, so you can last and enjoy pleasure for longer. Whatever brought you here, whether it has a name yet or not, this is a space to be taken seriously.
Sessions run for 2 hours. We begin with nervous system regulating work before moving into focused pelvic floor work, if your body is ready for it. Internal and external work happens within your consent, at your pace. The last 20 minutes are set aside for integration, time to rest, get dressed, and talk through what came up. You don't need a diagnosis to start. We work with what's actually happening in your body, not just what's on a chart.
“Ami really knows what she is doing. She helped me to feel my body, my sexual energy and relaxation in a way I never felt before. I am amazed that such a change in myself is possible in such a short amount of time.”
Tantric bodywork
Most of us live so far up in our heads that we barely feel our own bodies anymore. Tantric bodywork is a deep dive back into yours: a chance to feel more, reconnect with your own pleasure, and experience yourself in a completely new way. There's nothing to prove and no one to perform for, which is exactly what quiets the performance anxiety that lives in the head. And the more at home you become in your own body, the more present and confident you are as a lover, and the more you bring to a partner.
A session runs for 2 hours, slow and unhurried, guiding you down out of your head and into your body. We always begin clothed, we talk first, and we agree consent and boundaries together before any bodywork. Then we start with one or a couple of exercises together and from there it becomes a full-body experience. Lingam, testicle and prostate massage can be part of it, but never the point, because your sexual energy is meant to move through your whole body, not just your genitals. There's no chasing an erection, and no rushing toward a finish.
This is therapeutic bodywork, so here's what a session actually looks like. I stay clothed the whole time, and the focus is entirely on you. The touch is one-directional, I work with your body and you receive, there's no mutual touch, so you never have to perform or look after me. For a lot of men, simply learning to receive is the most freeing part of all, and here it's finally safe to do.
Once you can receive like that, one of the biggest shifts is learning that pleasure and ejaculation are not the same thing. When you build sexual energy and let it move through your body without releasing it, you leave full and energized, in a way most men only realize they'd been missing. Separating the two also grows your awareness and control, so ejaculation becomes something you can sense coming and work with, rather than something that just happens to you. And if you're dealing with premature ejaculation, we practice gently, failing forward, finding how much more time you can build bit by bit, and taking the shame out of it along the way.
What opens up is your body's capacity for sensation, pleasure and aliveness, often after stress, shame or years of pressure have quieted it. You leave more present, more confident, and more alive, able to create connection rather than chase it, and often with the spark in a relationship starting to return. This work can also support prostate health and recovery after prostate surgery (the physical side is in the pelvic floor section above). The last 20 minutes are for integration: time to rest, get dressed, and let everything settle.
Somatic Intimacy, Relationship and Sex Coaching
This is where you build the skills most of us were never taught: connection, communication, and how to actually turn a partner on. How to keep desire alive, last longer, date with real confidence, and enjoy sex instead of performing it. Coaching happens fully clothed, and there's far more we can do that way than people expect: exploring touch exchange, clearing inhibitions, and having fun experimenting. Wherever you are, single, dating, in a long relationship, or just wanting more, we work on what you want to be able to do, and how to get there. Some of it, like working through premature ejaculation, we can do entirely online.
Wherever you're starting from, we start with what you actually want. That might be dating that feels like a real connection instead of an audition, bringing desire back to a relationship that's gone quiet, finding yourself again after a breakup or divorce, or simply wanting more, more pleasure, adventure and skill. This is coaching for you as a man, for yourself, not only for a partner.
The Somatica Method I trained in is experiential: we don't just talk, we practise. Sessions combine real conversation with embodied, hands-on exercises, because intimacy is a set of skills you can actually learn, and pleasure, not pressure, is the fastest way to learn them. This is also where we ease sexual performance anxiety, the self-monitoring that gets between you and good sex. I'm not here to fix you, but to help you get clear on what you actually want, and practice it, so dating and sex start to feel aligned, confident and satisfying.
It's also a space to get curious. We can talk through kink, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, or anything else you've wondered about, as something to understand for yourself, never something I arrange or take you to. Your desire isn't a problem to fix here. It's something to explore and enjoy.
“Last night my wife and I made love again and finally, after so many years, I was able to hold and climax after her, at least 3 to 4 minutes after her. I am so very pleased with myself!”
I'm not sure yet
That's completely fine. A lot of people who reach out don't have a clear label for what's going on, they just know something needs to change. You don't need to know which category you fit into before you talk to me.
I always start with a free 20–30 minute consultation before taking on a new client. This is as much for you as it is for me. You get to ask anything you're curious about: how I work, what a session looks like, whether this feels right for you. I get a sense of what's brought you here, and whether I'm the right person to support you, or whether someone in my network might be a better fit. If it feels like a good match for both of us, we book something in.
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